Getting Real Feedback on Your Leadership Potential

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How to Use This: Try this roleplay with a coworker or mentor, or do it solo by switching between roles. Add some unexpected twists to make it more interesting. Reflect afterward to see what you learned.

Roleplay Scenario

Scenario Overview

You’re thinking about moving into a leadership role and want some real feedback on where you stand. You’ll talk with a manager or mentor to discuss your current strengths, areas to improve, and next steps. The goal is to get constructive feedback that helps you grow without feeling defensive.

Roles & Setup

Role A – Aspiring Leader (You)
You’re eager to step up your leadership game and want honest insights.
Your goal: Understand your leadership potential and figure out where you can improve.

Role B – Manager or Mentor
You’ve seen the aspirant in action and have some feedback to share.
Your goal: Give balanced, useful feedback to help them grow.

Suggested Openers

Aspiring Leader:

  • “I’m really interested in stepping into a leadership role. Could you give me some feedback on what I’m doing well and where I could improve?”
  • “I’d love to hear your thoughts on my leadership potential and what skills I should focus on.”

Manager or Mentor:

  • “Great to hear you’re thinking about this. Let’s chat about what you’re doing well and where there’s room to grow.”
  • “Sure thing. I’ve seen your work on projects, so let’s talk about your leadership potential and any areas to develop.”

Sample Roleplay in Action

Aspiring Leader:
“I’m really interested in growing into a leadership role. Could you give me some feedback on what’s working well for me and what I should work on?”

Manager or Mentor:
“It’s awesome you’re thinking about leadership. You’re strong in teamwork and solving problems. One area to look at is developing a strategic mindset—thinking ahead about how projects fit into the bigger picture.”

Aspiring Leader:
“Thanks for pointing that out. I know I need to get better at strategic planning. Do you have any tips on how I can do that?”

Manager or Mentor:
“Definitely. Try getting involved in strategic planning meetings or lead a project roadmap. Also, consider chatting with someone who’s great at strategy for more insights.”

Aspiring Leader:
“Those are great ideas. I’ll look for chances to join planning sessions. Is there anything else you think I should work on as I aim for leadership?”

Manager or Mentor:
“Keep asking for feedback from your peers, not just managers. It’ll give you a full view of your impact. Also, practice sharing your ideas confidently in meetings.”

Aspiring Leader:
“Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I’ll start by setting up some shadowing opportunities and getting more feedback from peers.”

Manager or Mentor:
“Happy to help. Let’s catch up next month to see how you’re doing.”

Post-Scenario Tools

Curveball Mode (Optional)

Add an unexpected element to keep things interesting:

  • Manager questions if you’re ready for leadership roles yet
  • Manager emphasizes a different area needing improvement
  • Manager suggests a skill or area you hadn’t considered

Reflection Checklist

As the Aspiring Leader:

  • Did you ask open-ended questions to get detailed feedback?
  • Did you stay open to feedback without getting defensive?
  • Did you come away with clear, actionable next steps?

As the Manager or Mentor:

  • Did you offer balanced feedback with specific examples?
  • Did you give clear suggestions for skill development?
  • Did you encourage ongoing growth and support?

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Focusing only on strengths without acknowledging areas to grow
  • Getting defensive or dismissing feedback
  • Leaving the conversation without a plan for next steps

Pro Tip

Think of feedback as an ongoing conversation, not just a one-time thing. Regularly seeking input and acting on it shows you’re committed to growth and builds trust in your leadership journey.