Resolving Miscommunications to Rebuild Trust

difficult-conversationsMid10–15 min
How to Use This: Run this roleplay with 2–3 people, or practice solo by embodying each role. Introduce curveballs to enhance adaptability. Reflect afterward to identify successes and areas for improvement.

Roleplay Scenario

Scenario Overview

A recent project delivery took a hit due to miscommunication between the engineering and product teams, leading to a missed deadline and some tension. The aim is to address this constructively, understand each other’s perspectives, and set up a plan to avoid such issues in the future.

Roles & Setup

Role A – Lead Engineer (You)
You feel that the communication gaps from the product team led to unrealistic expectations and the project delay.
Your goal: Address the issue calmly, understand the product team's perspective, and propose improvements.

Role B – Product Manager
You believe the engineering team misunderstood the priorities, which contributed to the delays.
Your goal: Clarify the project priorities, understand engineering challenges, and find a constructive way forward.

Suggested Openers

Lead Engineer:

  • “Hey, can we chat about the last project? I think we both noticed some communication hiccups.”
  • “I wanted to touch base on the recent release. There might have been some crossed wires that we should clear up.”

Product Manager:

  • “Sure thing, let’s break it down. I’m keen to understand where things went off track and how we can improve.”
  • “Absolutely, I noticed some issues too. Let’s see how we can better sync up.”

Sample Roleplay in Action

Lead Engineer:
“Thanks for taking the time to chat. I wanted to discuss the last project. It seems like we had some miscommunication around priorities, which threw off our timeline.”

Product Manager:
“I appreciate you bringing this up. I agree, there were some misalignments. Can you tell me more about what wasn’t clear from your side?”

Lead Engineer:
“Sure. We thought the new feature development was the top priority, but it seems the bug fixes were more urgent. That wasn’t entirely clear from our discussions.”

Product Manager:
“Got it. I did mention the bugs, but maybe I didn’t stress their urgency enough. I'll make sure to be clearer next time.”

Lead Engineer:
“Thanks for understanding. Let’s set up a regular sync to review priorities so we're always on the same page.”

Product Manager:
“That sounds great. How about a weekly check-in? It could help us stay aligned and prevent these issues.”

Lead Engineer:
“I think that would really help. We should also encourage team members to speak up if they’re unclear about priorities.”

Product Manager:
“Absolutely. I’ll send out a quick summary of our chat today to both teams to keep everyone in the loop.”

Lead Engineer:
“Perfect. I’m glad we had this discussion. Let’s keep the lines open moving forward.”

Post-Scenario Tools

Curveball Mode (Optional)

Introduce one of these during the roleplay to test adaptability:

  • The PM becomes defensive about their communication style.
  • An unexpected project change arises during the conversation.
  • An engineer brings up unrelated issues, adding complexity.

Reflection Checklist

As the Lead Engineer:

  • Did you address the issue without pointing fingers?
  • Did you listen actively to the product manager’s perspective?
  • Did you propose practical steps for improvement?

As the Product Manager:

  • Did you stay open to feedback without getting defensive?
  • Did you seek to understand the engineering team’s challenges?
  • Did you collaborate on a plan to enhance future communication?

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Dwelling too much on past mistakes rather than future solutions.
  • Letting the conversation become adversarial or defensive.
  • Failing to agree on concrete actions to improve communication.

Pro Tip

Tackle these conversations with a spirit of collaboration and focus on shared goals. Aligning on how to move forward reinforces trust and strengthens team dynamics.