1:1 with a Teammate Seeking Promotion

One-on-OnesMid5–10 min

Introduction: What You’ll Learn

This simulation walks through a 1:1 with someone who wants to move up quickly. You’ll explore how to match their energy without overpromising — and how to turn the conversation into a productive, motivating experience.

You’ll practice:

  • Encouraging ambition while setting clear expectations
  • Asking about their goals and self-assessment
  • Aligning promotion with company criteria
  • Outlining a real growth path with checkpoints

Step-by-Step Simulation

Scene 1: Opening the Ambition Conversation

You (Manager):
"Hey! Good to see you. Anything you’d like to dig into today?"

Teammate (Riley):
"Yeah — I’ve been meaning to bring this up. I really want to talk about getting promoted. I feel like I’m ready to take the next step."

You:
"Thanks for being direct — I appreciate that. I’d love to understand more about what promotion means to you. What would that next step look like in your eyes?"


Scene 2: Exploring Motivation and Readiness

Riley:
"I think I’m already operating at the next level. I’ve been taking initiative, mentoring others, and picking up complex tickets."

You:
"I’ve seen that too — and I want to support your growth. Let’s break it down a bit. What are the key signals you think show you’re ready?"

Riley:
"I think I’m showing leadership — like stepping in on that dashboard refactor and helping organize bug triage."

You:
"Those are great examples. Want to take a look at how this lines up with what we look for at the next level?"


Scene 3: Setting a Growth Path

You:
"Based on what I’ve seen, you’re absolutely on the right track. We usually look for a steady track record, not just one-off wins — so let’s highlight what you’ve been doing and build from there."

You (continued):
"For example, you’re doing a great job mentoring, but owning a cross-team project or influencing architecture decisions could be next. How would you feel about aiming for something like that in the next sprint or two?"

Riley:
"Yeah — that sounds exciting. I’d love more visibility and leadership."

You:
"Awesome. I’ll keep an eye out for good opportunities for you, and let’s keep checking in on this during our 1:1s. How about we set a checkpoint in about 6 weeks to review where things stand?"


Mini Roleplay Challenges

Challenge 1:
Riley says: "I should’ve been promoted already."

  • Best Response:
    “I hear your frustration. Let’s talk about what the bar looks like and where you’re already meeting it — and where there’s still room to grow.”

Challenge 2:
They compare themselves to a peer who got promoted.

  • Best Response:
    “Every path is a little different — let’s focus on your strengths and momentum. I’m here to advocate for you, but I want to make sure I have strong, clear examples to support that.”

Challenge 3:
They ask for a timeline you’re unsure about.

  • Best Response:
    “I can’t commit to a timeline right now, but I can commit to helping you grow and giving clear feedback on how things are going.”

Optional Curveball Mode

  • Riley misunderstands the expectations for the next level.
  • They express disappointment after hearing feedback.
  • They want a title change more than real responsibility.

Reflection Checklist

Clarity and Encouragement

  • Did I show enthusiasm for their ambition?
  • Did I communicate clearly about what’s required?

Growth Path

  • Did I help identify a next-level project or milestone?
  • Did I align with company criteria and role expectations?

Support and Follow-Through

  • Did I set a follow-up or checkpoint?
  • Did I offer tangible ways to help them succeed?

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Overpromising or implying guarantees
  • Being vague about criteria or process
  • Comparing them directly to peers
  • Dismissing ambition as impatience