Running Standup with Disagreement or Pushback

StandupsMid5–10 min

Introduction: What You’ll Learn

Not every standup is smooth. Sometimes a teammate questions a decision, disagrees with a priority, or raises a concern that could derail the meeting. Your job is to acknowledge the issue without turning the standup into a debate or a status meeting.

You’ll practice:

  • Handling pushback calmly and constructively
  • Acknowledging concerns without escalating
  • Keeping the standup focused
  • Deferring deeper discussion to follow-ups

Step-by-Step Simulation

Scene 1: Opening the Standup

Facilitator: "Good morning. Let’s keep it short — just updates, today’s plans, and blockers. I’ll go first."

Facilitator (as a developer): "Yesterday I wrapped up the error logging improvements. Today I’m pairing with Priya on the signup bug. No blockers."

Facilitator: "Thanks. Sara, you’re up."


Scene 2: Teammate Updates with Pushback

Sara: "Still on the export performance work. I’m a little confused why we’re prioritizing this before we fix the auth issues — I thought those were more urgent."

Facilitator: "Thanks, Sara — sounds like there’s some priority confusion. Let’s note that and follow up with Product after this. Anything else for today?"

Sara: "Nope, just heads-down on that."

Facilitator: "Cool, thanks. Alex?"

Alex: "Yesterday I refactored the layout for mobile. Today I’ll do a quick demo for Design. Still waiting on final specs, though."

Facilitator: "Thanks — let’s flag that so we can nudge Design today. Priya, your turn."

Priya: "Actually, I wanted to raise something — we’ve been saying this bug is high priority, but I’ve brought it up in three standups and nothing’s moved."

Facilitator: "Appreciate you bringing it up, Priya. Let’s make sure it gets the attention it deserves — we can sync right after this to clarify what’s blocking it. Anything else for today?"

Priya: "That’s it."

Facilitator: "Thanks. Leo?"

Leo: "Finished the reporting endpoint tests. Starting load tests today. All good here."

Facilitator: "Awesome — thank you."


Scene 3: Wrapping Up and Recap

Facilitator: "Quick recap: Sara raised a priority concern — we’ll follow up with Product. Priya flagged lack of movement on a recurring bug — we’ll sync right after this to dig in. Design specs for Alex are still pending — I’ll check on that today. Great updates, everyone. Appreciate the honesty and clarity."


Mini Roleplay Challenges

Challenge 1: Sara continues pressing about priorities.

  • Best Response: “Totally fair concern — let’s set up time to discuss after this so we don’t derail the standup.”

Challenge 2: Priya sounds frustrated.

  • Best Response: “Thanks for raising it. Let’s make sure it gets the attention it needs — we’ll talk after this.”

Challenge 3: Another teammate tries to jump in and debate.

  • Best Response: “Good discussion — let’s continue after standup so we stay on track.”

Optional Curveball Mode

Try these twists:

  • Two teammates start debating what’s more important.
  • A teammate questions the team’s overall direction.
  • One person refuses to move on until a decision is made.

How do you de-escalate without dismissing?

Reflection Checklist

Standup Flow

  • Did I prevent the meeting from becoming a debate?
  • Did I redirect without shutting people down?
  • Did I take notes and assign follow-ups?

Conflict Navigation

  • Did I stay calm under pressure?
  • Did I validate concerns appropriately?
  • Did I encourage further discussion outside the standup?

Leadership & Tone

  • Did I maintain psychological safety?
  • Was I steady, fair, and clear?
  • Did I help the team stay focused?

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Dismissing concerns too quickly
  • Letting debates hijack the standup
  • Ignoring visible frustration or tension
  • Not following up on escalated concerns