Supporting a Teammate Who Seems Isolated

team-cultureMid10–15 min
How to Use This: Run this roleplay with 2–3 people, or try it solo by voicing each role. Include curveballs to explore different dynamics. Reflect afterward to see what worked—and what didn’t.

Roleplay Scenario

Scenario Overview

You've noticed a teammate has been quieter during meetings and has skipped several virtual hangouts. You suspect they might feel a bit isolated. Your goal is to reach out in a friendly way that encourages open communication and reinforces a supportive team culture.

Roles & Setup

Role A – Team Member (You)
You’ve noticed your colleague has been less engaged and want to offer some support.
Your goal: Approach the conversation warmly and suggest ways to feel more connected.

Role B – Isolated Teammate
You’ve been feeling a bit disconnected from the team and aren’t sure how to express it.
Your goal: Share your feelings if you’re comfortable, and explore solutions together.

Suggested Openers

Team Member:

  • “Hey [Teammate], I’ve noticed you’ve been a bit quieter in our meetings. Is everything okay? I’m here if you need someone to talk to.”
  • “Hi [Teammate], we’ve missed you at our team hangouts. Hope everything’s good. Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help.”

Isolated Teammate:

  • “Thanks for checking in. I’ve just been feeling a bit out of the loop lately and it’s been tough.”
  • “I appreciate you reaching out. I’ve been a bit overwhelmed with everything going on.”

Sample Roleplay in Action

Team Member:
“Hey [Teammate], I wanted to see how you’re doing. You’ve seemed a bit quieter than usual in our meetings. Is everything alright?”

Isolated Teammate:
“Thanks for noticing. Yeah, I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed and kind of disconnected from the team.”

Team Member:
“I’m sorry to hear that. Do you want to talk about what’s been overwhelming you? Maybe we can figure out how to make things a bit easier.”

Isolated Teammate:
“It’s mostly the workload and missing the face-to-face interactions we used to have.”

Team Member:
“I totally get that. How about we set up a virtual coffee chat this week? We could also bring it up at our next team meeting and see if others have ideas on staying connected.”

Isolated Teammate:
“I’d really appreciate that. Having more regular check-ins could definitely help.”

Team Member:
“Great, I’ll get something on the calendar. And if there’s anything else you need, just let me know. We’re all here to support each other.”

Post-Scenario Tools

Curveball Mode (Optional)

Throw in one of these to add complexity:

  • The teammate is hesitant to open up and insists everything is fine, requiring gentle encouragement.
  • Another team member joins the conversation and shares that they feel similarly.
  • A new project with tight deadlines is announced, increasing stress levels.

Reflection Checklist

As the Team Member:

  • Did you approach the conversation with genuine concern?
  • Did you offer practical suggestions for staying connected?
  • Did you make it clear you’re there to support?

As the Isolated Teammate:

  • Did you feel comfortable sharing your experience?
  • Were the suggestions offered helpful and realistic?
  • Did you feel more connected to the team after the conversation?

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Assuming you know what the teammate is feeling without asking
  • Pressuring them to share more than they want to
  • Offering solutions without fully listening

Pro Tip

Building a supportive team environment takes consistent effort. Little gestures like regular check-ins and open chats can make a big difference in team morale and connection.