Conducting a Performance Conversation

Performance ConversationsMid5–10 min

Introduction: What You’ll Learn

This simulation guides you through a performance conversation focused on addressing underperformance. You'll learn how to balance empathy with clarity, ensuring the conversation is constructive and supportive.

You’ll practice:

  • Setting a positive and constructive tone
  • Clearly communicating performance concerns with specific examples
  • Encouraging self-reflection and input
  • Collaboratively developing a plan for improvement with actionable steps

Step-by-Step Simulation

Scene 1: Opening the Conversation

Facilitator: "Hey Jamie, thanks for meeting with me today. I really appreciate all the hard work you’ve been putting in. I wanted to chat about a few things to see how I can help you out."

Jamie (as a developer): "Sure, I’m all ears."

Facilitator: "Awesome. I just want to make sure we're both on the same page and find ways to make things a bit smoother for you."


Scene 2: Sharing Observations

Facilitator: "I’ve noticed that some of your code reviews are taking longer than usual, and a couple of deadlines slipped through the cracks. Do you have any thoughts on what's been going on?"

Jamie: "Yeah, I’ve been finding the new project pretty tough and juggling everything has been a bit much."

Facilitator: "I totally get that. New projects can be overwhelming. Let’s see how we can make it more manageable."


Scene 3: Encouraging Reflection and Input

Facilitator: "What do you think would help take some of that pressure off? Is there anything specific you feel you need more of?"

Jamie: "Prioritizing has been a struggle, and I could use a bit more clarity on what's expected with this new project."

Facilitator: "That makes sense. How about we set up a quick weekly check-in to go over priorities? I can also connect you with someone who's been through this project for some extra tips."


Scene 4: Developing an Improvement Plan

Facilitator: "Let’s come up with a plan to help you feel more on top of things. We can start with those weekly check-ins and get you some mentorship. How does that sound?"

Jamie: "That sounds great. I’d definitely appreciate the extra support."

Facilitator: "Awesome. Let’s touch base in a month to see how things are going. We can tweak the plan if needed."


Scene 5: Wrapping Up

Facilitator: "Thanks for chatting today, Jamie. Remember, you can always reach out if you’re feeling stuck or need anything."

Jamie: "Thanks, I really appreciate it. I’ll work on the plan and keep you posted."

Facilitator: "Perfect. I’m confident you'll do great. Let’s keep in touch, and have a good one!"


Mini Roleplay Challenges

Challenge 1: Jamie becomes defensive and denies any issues.

  • Best Response: “I understand this might feel unexpected. Let’s go over some specifics together and figure out a way forward.”

Challenge 2: Jamie agrees but seems uninterested in improving.

  • Best Response: “I’d like to know what might motivate you more. Let’s talk about what support you need from me.”

Challenge 3: Jamie asks for immediate feedback on unrelated work.

  • Best Response: “I’d love to discuss that, but let’s stick to our plan for now. We can set up another time to go over your other work.”

Optional Curveball Mode

  • Jamie mentions personal issues affecting work.
  • A team member interrupts with unrelated feedback.
  • Jamie questions the fairness of the feedback.

Practice handling each one with empathy and professionalism.

Reflection Checklist

Conversation Flow

  • Did I set a supportive tone while being clear about concerns?
  • Did I use specific examples to illustrate performance issues?
  • Did I encourage Jamie to share their perspective and actively listen?

Solution-Oriented Approach

  • Did I propose actionable steps for improvement?
  • Did I offer appropriate support and resources?
  • Did we agree on a follow-up plan with specific goals?

Empathy and Clarity

  • Was I empathetic yet direct?
  • Did I create a safe space for open dialogue?
  • Did I reaffirm my support and willingness to help?

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Focusing only on negatives without solutions
  • Overwhelming Jamie with too many changes at once
  • Failing to listen actively to Jamie’s perspective
  • Not setting a clear follow-up or review date